Last night at a bar I got asked the always annoying "why are you single/alone question?" At first I just said the usual " I have no idea lol." But then he kept on at it which at first was the compliment of I'm a good looking person so I shouldn't be single but then over time turned into I must want to be single and I must be a closed person who is closed to love as when I asked if I wanted a boyfriend when I come back home I just said would be nice but it may/may not happen. Apparently accepting it may not happen means I don't want it to happen. I was also told I should know what I want by my age so there is clearly a reason as to why I haven't found it. I told him he has just known me one night so how can he tell me I'm closed etc then he apologised . He didn't seem to appreciate it when I asked him why he his still single. Honestly it's annoying enough to ask a single girl that but when you keep demanding to know why then suggest it's my own fault/ choice it's just plain rude. Women tend to get asked this question more than men too which isn't fair as yes although we can ask men out most of us still wait for the men to ask us out so have less control over the situation. Its not my fault if the man of my dreams hasn't come along yet and I'm sick of people ( usually couples but not in this case) treating singleness like some kind of disease that must be cured. Sorry rant over I've just been asked this too many times and it seems every time I go out I get asked this ( although usually I'm spared the analysation of what my problem is).
You're more patient than me; I would've told hime to go f@!k himself.
You're right about one thing, women do seem to be singled out on the idea of being single. But then again maybe men are asked as much but maybe they don't worry about it as much as us girls or something. But still it is frustrating when your friends make you feel that singleness is terrible, like you are doomed that way the rest of your life. As you know I recently got a boyfriend for the first time two months ago, I love it, but I also love my me time. you can't always cling to the guy. I actually read a really good quote that said "Sometimes it's good to be alone, you can define yourself without someone else doing it for you" or something along those lines.
So what I say to you is enjoy singlehood while you can, the right man will come along. It's better to find someone who will treat you with respect and love than one who doesn't. And the guy who bugged you about that last night sounds like a douchebag. But I bet you will find someone someday, and it might happen when you least expect it so be prepared for that, especially if the guy doesn't seem like the perfect match for you.
But if you ever need someone to talk to, I'm here and still your friend on facebook. I will listen.